• @PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca
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    261 year ago

    Are people not allowed to find others attractive after they’re married or something? What is this sentiment?

    • @ickplant@lemmy.worldOP
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      151 year ago

      It’s more of a shitpost than a sentiment. My husband and I talk about other attractive people all the time.

    • EmasXP
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      21 year ago

      We all have different levels of insecurity. I think it’s common to not want to hurt the feelings of the ones we love

    • Are people not allowed to find others attractive after they’re married or something?

      There’s a general taboo against oogling. But its often a question of finesse. Doing a loud wolf-whistle at someone as she passes you is bad form, and doubly so if your wife isn’t wolf-whistling with you.

        • Also rudeness. Playing “hot or not” with every person that crosses your path is considered in poor taste. It objectifies and commodifies them, reducing them to visual spectacles in a way that can quickly become mean-spirited and oafish.

          Also, depending on who your oogling, it can get creepy. Fixating on a particular age range or certain ethnic features (even unintentionally) is problematic for a whole host of reasons.