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    sometimes you bring on a ceo just to get some controversial thing done. they can eat the blame and then leave

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      I’m embarrassed it took me so long to realize this. Somebody explained that to me recently, within the context of a conversation about layoffs. That CEO had no prior CEO experience, was only there for less than a year, and was part of the board of directors. In hindsight it seems so obvious.

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          Tacit racism. She is a US citizen of Chinese background. Why have her face on the flag of the Empire of Japan if the subliminal message wasn’t yellow peril?

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          32 months ago

          And it should be noted, it was shit like “you can’t have a subreddit entirely devoted to encouraging groups you dislike to kill themselves”

      • @[email protected]
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        -12 months ago

        Ellen Pao was a shit executive and a failure. Has nothing to do with the imaginary “LeTs bRinG iN a wHOmAn tO tAkE dA faLL!!!”

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      352 months ago

      They called it an Axe Man, in my time. I’ve been at two companies hit with them, and I follow them AND the CEO who stepped down (once a reverted permanent one and the other a long-term leave) to see which companies are fucked next.

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        So replacing a woman with a woman, and then bringing back the original woman is what made you think the fall person had to be a woman? Reddit may have done so… but I find it hard to believe this was sex/gender related. Otherwise it would have made more sense to replace the woman with a man, have him take the fall and go back to Whitney so it made her / the company look better long term.

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        This is moronic and sexist.

        History is full of males that were suckered into taking the fall.

        Saying that women alone are incompetent to the point of always being suckered into a CEO position to be the fall gal is peak misogynism.

        Think things through a little before posting.

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          What is “the glass cliff”, Alex.

          Sorry that stating the existence of this systemic sexism is apparently sexist. Guess I’m sexist?

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            Yes, you are sexist….against women for sure (your comment proves that) and probably men, also.

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              How does recognizing systemic sexism, AKA issues within our society that unfairly treat either men or women, make me sexist? The “glass cliff” is a well known phenomenon, we’re not just making this up out of nowhere.

              I guess if you choose to remain ignorant of such issues, people pointing them out may appear sexist to you. I’m sorry that your world view is so limited by your own self imposed blinders, but please don’t shoot the messenger. Wikipedia is just a few clicks away.

    • @[email protected]
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      192 months ago

      Exactly this, they are usually young too and they know their only job is to fire ppl and/or do decisions that will make most if not all unhappy. I have only seen it once my self but a lot of friends went through that at their company.

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        52 months ago

        the sad part is the act they put on coming in. many at the company will think this is a real hire that will bring about good cultural change

  • @[email protected]
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    There’s a big problem with the “women message first” gimmick, and it’s that they just don’t.

    If they don’t simply let the match expire, you either get a shitty Gif, or something along the lines of “hey.”

    Maybe one in ten will actually send a message that genuinely starts a conversation.

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      I literally saw so many profiles being like “I don’t message first”, like do you even understand what the app you’ve signed up for is?

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      it would work better if it was "women swipe first’. men can look at and swipe the women who swiped them already. this solves two problems:

      1. women are not seen by anyone they don’t want to be
      2. men don’t need to spend hours swiping hundreds of women

      please give me 1 million dollars

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          it means men would not spend hours on the app, which means nobody would ever do this

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            Exactly, Im 50 and Im not rich or particularly good looking. If I was straight I might only see 5 or 6 women on the app that would match with me to begin with and if those didn’t become anything I’d be done with that app. It can’t work

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              132 months ago

              Would you rather see 5 or 6 women that all expressed interest in you or a thousand women who have never and probably will never even see you? Open the app, swipe 5 or 6 times, move on with your life.

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                  Exceptthe company that makes the app needs you to keep dating to make money. If ypu have 5 options and they don’t pan out you are done with that app.

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                As someone who has spent a stupid amount of time browsing Tinder for shits & giggles, I’m not sure I wouldn’t want that. But then again I’m gay and things work way differently for us. If I swipe right, it’s very likely we match and then have a boring convo that goes nowhere. Maybe I suck at it but I never have any luck despite everything.

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                  32 months ago

                  You’re gonna have a boring convo on a chat app with a random stranger. You’re both interested in each other, just ask to meet up. Do something interesting together and the conversation will flow naturally.

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              i am the most attractive sexy man in my entire giant city of 23 million people but i still have to swipe 50 girls to get 1 match and i might not even be that interested in her. better to meet girls in real life and follow them around on the tube and insert myself into their personal space 🚀

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            42 months ago

            Who wants men spending hours on the app and why? Most of these are subscription-based, not ad-supported.

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              Sure, but you’ve got to build that habit of checking the app. Gotta lure people back for more little hits of dopamine. The men aren’t going to subscribe (or at least stay subscribed) if they aren’t getting that illusion of lots of options for people to date.

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                No, it’s the goal of apps that want to serve as many advertisements as humanly possible. Most dating apps don’t have any way to monetize your attention.

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            Which means after the exhaust those few options they won’t use that app again. No app developer will do this.

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        122 months ago

        Facebook dating kinda has this where you get notified if someone likes you Ironically it works better than any other dating app. The whole swipe til you both match deal is just to keep people paying and using the app for longer

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          Now if Facebook Dating would increase it’s freaking character limit for profile bios, it’d be perfect. But nooooo…

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          Would be totally cool if I wasn’t completely certain that they would use that against me.

      • Echo Dot
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        That’s the premium feature in pretty much every dating app. You get to see who likes you but you have to pay the money to find out if anyone swiped on you at all.

        They imply that lots of people swiped on you but you don’t actually know until after you’ve given the money.

        So basically your plan is to just remove the con part which I’m all in favor of.

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      you either get a shitty Gif, or something along the lines of “hey.”

      So same result as when men message first.

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        Might just be my experience, but men put in more effort. Probably because women are more desirable so they don’t really need to.

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                *most

                Edit: on the scale of all women versus all men, it’s not even close. Men are by far the hornier of the two biological sexes. There are specific women who can be hornier than a lot of men, and there are men who are not sexual at all…. This does not mean that it is incorrect to generalize and say that men are hornier.

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      102 months ago

      I loved bumble when I was on it 🤷‍♂️ much, much higher hit rate than any other app

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      Well cultural habits are slow to change. I suspect it would take some 20 years to change the dynamics such than women are always expected to make the first move.

      Bumble was well positioned to push for that change, unfortunately earning revenue has a priority, they are are a business after all. Still their gimmick got the ball rolling, we’ll see who picks it up next.

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      That ratio was much higher for me. I’d say about 70% sent a message. Probably work on the profile, make it more interesting? If that is now really gone I’m not sure whether I ever install that App anymore, it was nice not having to come up with first messages with questionable outcome…

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      Just like with anything, if you put something interesting in your bio, women will use that as conversation starter.

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        No, they didn’t. I had plenty in my bio about hobbies, sports etc, very few mentioned it.

      • Echo Dot
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        That is definitely not it. Looking at my bio which I wrote ages ago I’m actually kind of concerned I’m slightly doxing in myself the amount of information that’s in there.

        The problem is that there is a social convention that men start the conversation, so a lot of women just aren’t very good at openings, so they say “hi” and then I’ve basically got to carry the conversation. So what’s the point in the app then? Even if they just opened with “sorry I’m not very good at this yet” it would be a start, but noooo.

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      Yeah I can see how women message first will tank a dating app. That fucking stupid. I get it that women get bombarded with messages from guys on dating apps. But guess what all the time I used the apps 0% was I ever messaged by a woman.

      Women don’t chase men because they don’t have too. I knew several women I help set up their dating profiles. They would get a 1000 hits, mostly guys says “hey” or the worse be :hey baby".

      How I realize just how easy and why I never had problems with dating apps. You got to give a woman more then hey and calling them baby is just cringe. Then you get the guys straight up asking for sex or nudes. Anyways point is having the app where the men can’t make a move unless the women contact you? Will not work wtf was she thinking?

      Hell most of them like to just scroll, none of them were interested in making the first move.

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        having the app where the men can’t make a move unless the women contact you? Will not work wtf was she thinking?

        I mean, it did work though. It was one of the top dating apps for a long time.

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            As a man who’s struggling with dating, Bumble has always been more effective for me than Tinder

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              Agreed. When I was playing that game Bumble for me was a much more effective platform. Tinder is horrible, just a cesspool of low moral high ego monkeys.

              Admittedly my marriage started from a one night stand / hookup at a bar with someone visiting from 400km away, so these apps never paid off in the long term for me.

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          Huh the app lost 53% of stock price so no whatsoever she was doing didn’t work why they fired her ass.

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            whatsoever she was doing didn’t work why they fired her ass.

            You’re contradicting yourself, because you didn’t understand (or didn’t read) the article.

            Bumble was a platform where only women could message first. It was a leading platform for a while. This CEO changed that to be a more conventional system where men could message first. After that change, the user base dwindled and the stock tanked, as you noted.

            In other words, they were much more successful as a woman-message-first platform.

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              I see never used Bumble, well are they changing it back? What other features does it hold? Is like all the rest now were you swipe left or right? I used OKCUPID back when you had to put thought into your profile. And the longer the better.

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            Maybe you missed the headline where this was a new CEO that killed their only unique feature…or the fact that I used the past tense in the comment you replied to.

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        You literally listed a bunch of reasons why men shouldn’t be allowed to message first

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        mostly guys says “hey” or the worse be :hey baby"

        Can you perhaps understand why that might be as bad as getting no messages at all? How many dick pictures were mixed in? Many, many, many men use these apps to spam matching with everyone. Those “hi”’s rarely lead to actual connection.

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        Because the moment a woman makes a move, then the guy just falls the hell over on themselves thinking they’ve struck jackpot, then they’ll start pouring in their long-ass list of shitty pick up lines. Just admit it, guys cannot for the life of them, treat a woman as a woman and as a human being. There is always, always some underlying goal a guy has most of the time, when it comes to finally talking with a woman who bothers giving them even 5 minutes of their time.

        And you highlighted them.

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          42 months ago

          The best way to get laid is to not try to get laid and actually interact with each other like humans

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            Very much this. I’ve had women friends who low key were dtf but I’m unfortunately a queer homosexual. One even asked me to be her sperm donor even though I don’t think I’m particularly good looking, wtf.

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            Why are you telling me this? Go tell the dude above.

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              Because you need to hear it, either figure out how to have an intriguing personality (not thirsty) and do some self improvement instead of bitching that all the girls are impossible. Your incel is showing hard.

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      Yeah. I used the BFF version for a bit to try and find folks in my area to hang out with. It’s a really horrible app. When someone messages you, you have 24 hours to respond. If you don’t then the two of you get unmatched. I can understand something like unlatching after some time period without responding, but just 24 hours? Ick.

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        We have shareholders to consider! Now get on with your relationship before we unnecessarily cut you off.

        Brought to you by Match, "You’re next Bumble, you think they fucked up Bumble already!? Just you wait!’

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          This just gave me the (shit post) idea of an app where VC funders can swipe on projects they want to invest in or not

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        Probably, considering that it was enough to get the company to the point that it could go public. And for the company to lose 54% of its “value” after changing it.

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      Also regarding cost: I have yet to hear how a dating app solves the paradox that success means losing a customer. The incentives of the company and customer are not aligned and actually quite the opposite.

      The company wants you to stay and spend as much as possible on the platform (optimizing to keep you just engaged enough to stick with it), whereas the ideal outcome for the customer means not needing the app in as little time as possible.

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        Oh they solved it alright. They just make it harder to find matches. Could you imagine the fuckery that goes on with their algorithms. Some engineer dialing back the chance of falling in true love. The executive is like, “We need to turn down finding true love to .0007% because we are losing too many customers!”

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          I meant success in the context of what a dating app should achieve: Matching suitable partners.

          But you are of course right that for the company success is profit and the rest are just variables to be optimized towards that goal.

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    Wow, as a gay dude reading the comments here, straight dating sucks, why is it even like that?

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      Bumble used to be different back in the day. I tried it when it was going down the tubes.

      I think part of the problem is that the matching is fairly superficial, so while you know a little about the person, most of the details amount to their face, 1-3 hobbies, and their ass.

      The women I matched with that I went out with were awkward and felt forced. In the end, I ended up falling in love with a close guy friend that I had known for years.

      If bumble wants success, they should allow for much deeper Q&A, longer response times, a tweaked algorithm that matches people based off hobbies and passions, and an AD section that allows people to privately put in stuff that they like after dark. Info that isn’t shared with their matches, but helps make people match better with people like them.

      As for straight dating though, idk. I feel like people should probably be avoiding apps and meeting organically through stuff like biking groups, climbing groups, skiing events, big dance venues, etc. it fosters much more organic connections.

      I don’t participate in bar culture that much, but the difference between the gay bars I’ve gone to and the straighter college-y bars feels immense. The former is much more social with a pinch of kink, the latter is where people are getting absolutely blitzed without much dialogue over loud music. It’s an extremely small sample size, but I can’t help but wonder if it’s part of a larger trend when it comes to meeting people and how portions of society meet and date. Perhaps there are bars where single straight men and women meet over 1-2 drinks and talk, but I haven’t seen any so far.

      Overall, I think the Internet and cars (decreasing population density and increasing the space between third places) has had a dramatically negative impact on love and friendships in places like the US.