Anyone else?

    • @[email protected]
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      172 years ago

      Definitely worthy of a subtle eye roll at least. My number one would have to be “it is what it is”. They all fall under the category of “saying something without saying anything”.

    • @[email protected]
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      I don’t even know what it means!

      Wait: Wait, I get it now. it’s along the lines of someone else’s trash is someones treasure and you should not put them down because of it?

        • @[email protected]
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          Thanks! I’m a non english native speaker, so when i see colloquial phrases, sometimes i do not get the meaning.

  • tiredofsametab
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    “I’m not racist.” is a great statement. “I’m not racist, but” is quickly entering dangerous territory.

    “I don’t want to yuck your yum.” is also a great statement. “I don’t want to yuck your yum, but” has the same problem as the above.

    That “but” is doing a lot of heavy lifting and contradicting the preceding part.

  • @[email protected]
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    512 years ago

    While I’m definitely one to get mildly irritated at the phrasing (and am even more irritated by “fur babies” lol), I’m really bothered by people excusing their own rudeness - right up there with saying “no offense” right before being deliberately offensive. Like if you don’t want to yuck my yum or cause offense then why are you about to do it anyway?

    • @[email protected]
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      The reason I say “no offense” is to indicate to you that my intention is something other than offending you.

      For example “no offense but your breath stinks. We should stop and get some mouthwash before we get to the party”

      I’m not saying that to make a person feel bad, though they will likely feel bad after I say it. I’m saying it to help them.

      I’m autistic, man. If the autistic kid can figure this stuff out so can you. No offense, but maybe you should consider things you don’t understand more deeply before tossing them in the waste bin.

      • @[email protected]
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        32 years ago

        Thanks for your comment, certainly there are people like yourself who mean those words earnestly to convey a delicate point. I also imagine that comes out in your demeanor and character when you are saying that to someone.

        Unfortunately, in my experience, many people say it without any sense of empathy or compassion at all despite the literal meaning. 😕

    • livus
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      Yeah I agree! I usually interrupt with “offense taken” before they get through their sentence.

      Either say it or don’t, but lets not pretend the disclaimer does anything other than act as a mild spoiler that they are about to say something edgy.

    • @[email protected]
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      52 years ago

      You mean people with “no filter”, that if you couldn’t handle at their worst you don’t deserve them at their best?

    • @[email protected]
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      Between the lines of “I don’t want to” reads “I have to”, which is easily disputed if said out loud.

  • Rottcodd
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    Yeah - the whole dynamic of claiming that you don’t intend to do the specific shitty thing that you then intentionally and specifically do is infuriating already, and “yuck your yum” just adds an extra layer of cringe to it.

    • tjhart85
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      Yeah, I’ve only ever seen it used as an admonishment against someone. Like, someone says something rude as fuck and they get told “don’t yuck someone else’s yum” … which, isn’t terrible, when it’s advice being given to people acting like children.

      Saying “I don’t want to yuck your yum, but, the thing you like is blah-blah-blah” could easily be changed to “I’m an asshole and I think the things you like are blah-blah-blah” and the context of what was being said wouldn’t change.

  • andrew
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    Hm. So are you saying it yucks your yum?

  • @[email protected]
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    That’s a fairly common saying in the bdsm community. Don’t “yuck someone’s yum”

  • methodicalaspect
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    162 years ago

    I’ve never heard that phrase before but it sounds like something I can use to annoy the piss out of my kids and their friends. Kind of like yeet, rizz, or cap. Especially if I use it wrong intentionally.

    • Chozo
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      Hey cap, your yeet is pretty rizz, ong smh

    • QuinceDaPence
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      Yeet makes sense. Rizz, I at least understand where it comes from (cha[rizz]ma). But I do not get “cap”.

        • QuinceDaPence
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          Interesting.

          On an unrelated note, did Mastodon fix/change something with interacting with Lemmy and Kbin posts? I’ve been seeing a lot of y’all all of a sudden.

          • Alex
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            @QuinceDaPence
            I don’t know. Perhaps familiarity? Or the subject matter?

            I just happened to see the comment and wanted to contribute. From a Mastodon perspective, you guys have ‘default’ avatars and sometimes the conversation seem to fly by. Might be a reason others don’t engage. On reddit type places having a default was “norm” but at least on Mastodon I think it’s considered “norm” to have an avi.

            Different interface so the engagement is different, maybe?

            @errer @unwillingsomnambulist

        • @[email protected]
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          Cap doesn’t come from Kappa. The term “capping” has been slang for lying or exaggerating in the hip hop community for many many years.

  • @[email protected]
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    “I’m not X but <position statement that clearly requires them to be X” and “I don’t want to Y but <proceeds to do exactly Y>” are used by people that mistakenly believe a disclaimer provides instant absolution.

    On the other hand, I’ve never had anybody threaten to yuck my yum in exactly those terms, and I’m slightly intrigued by the prospect.

  • salt
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    are you upset about the phrase “yuck my yum” or them trashing your food, period? I mean both are mildly infuriating to me but I’m curious

    edit: added much-needed comma.

    Also, I’ve only ever heard this in the context of food (hence the “yum”) but I see it’s also used for other things? Which is awful, because “yum” should absolutely never refer to anything other than food

    • AerM
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      As a girl and a brit I’m mildly nauseated by the term “food period” but admittedly I have no idea what it means.

      • Haus
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        Change it to “… food, full stop.” and it may make more sense.

      • AerM
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        oh… I see! That comma was very important lol

  • @[email protected]
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    102 years ago

    Where do you fall on the “fur children” way of describing certain pets? I feel like this falls into a vaguely similar group of mannerisms that probably mildly infuriate a number of folks.

    • @[email protected]
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      I have a cat. He is a pet. Not a fur baby or child. I am not a cat. He’s too old to be a baby. Young cats are kittens, not babies. I also very dislike doggos and kiddos.

      Not sure why I wrote all that like a four year old. Maybe because that’s how I view the intelligence level of those that feel the need to use that kind of language.

      • @[email protected]
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        I have a cat. He’s the first cat I’d call a fur baby because he whines like a, um, fur baby.

        • AerM
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          Admittedly, I too say it unironically. When my cat asks for cuddles, demands to be picked up and hugged. I have every right to call him a fur baby. He definitely acts like one. That and just “kid” because he is definitely a kid. It also sounds close to the ukrainian word for cat so it’s kind of perfect

      • @[email protected]
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        My wife has a 14-yr-old cat that she refers to as “my old man baby”. The cat’s mannerisms and age fit the name. That said, the phrase weirdly straddles a few categories in this discussion.

  • @[email protected]
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    I’m generally unfavorable to any version of the word “yummy” in any context, so you have my sympathies.

  • @[email protected]
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    42 years ago

    I just heard this for the first time … an hour ago? From a Lemmy comment.

    It does sound vaguely gross to my ears. Then again, so does the word “frothy” in a way I can’t explain. (But “moist” has never been an issue.)

  • TheSpookiestUser
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    I say this on purpose to annoy my friends, especially in situations where it’s not needed

    • @[email protected]
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      Ditto, I use it ironically for things that truly reprehensible. I.e. “I don’t want to yuck anyone’s yum, but cannibalism isn’t for me.”